Embracing Presence: A Path to Mindfulness and Fulfilment

Have you ever had the feeling that life is passing you by? As if you were constantly stuck in the past or worried about the future? What if the real key to happiness and fulfilment lies in something as simple as connecting with the present moment and being fully present? Many spiritual and mindfulness practises emphasise the importance of living in the now, as this can help to reduce stress and anxiety, increase appreciation for the simple pleasures of life and improve overall wellbeing. By cultivating a sense of mindfulness and focussing our attention on the present, we can experience a greater sense of peace and contentment, allowing us to make the most of each moment as it unfolds.

When we talk about presence, we mean the opposite of being in the future or in the past. Much of our waking life is dominated by our worries about the past and our fears about the future. What gets lost in between is the present moment. Dwelling on the past often leads to regret, while worrying about the future often leads to anxiety. It is important to realise that living in the present does not mean ignoring the lessons of the past or neglecting the future. Rather, it is about finding a balance between learning from the experiences of the past and carefully preparing for what is to come while fully enjoying the beauty and possibilities of the present. This mindset can lead to a deep sense of gratitude, mindfulness and a deeper connection with the world around us.

The present moment is the only time we have control over. We have no control over the past and we cannot fully control the future — although we can influence it through our actions in the present. Therefore, the present is the most valuable and important time to focus on. When we are fully in the present, we can make the most of every experience, connect more deeply with others and appreciate the beauty that surrounds us. When we focus on the present, we can also better manage our thoughts and emotions, leading to a greater sense of inner peace and contentment. When we embrace the present moment, we can make conscious choices and take intentional action to shape our future in a way that aligns with our values and goals.

Writer and Zen practitioner Natalie Goldberg sums up the essence of presence beautifully with her quote: ‘Every moment is enormous, and it’s all we have.’ We rarely think about the fact that all that really exists is this one moment of awareness. This quote from Goldberg captures the true essence of presence and why it is so important. Presence allows us to appreciate each moment as it unfolds and to fully engage with the richness of our experience and the interconnectedness of all things. When we embrace presence, we can also enjoy the beauty of simple things and feel gratitude for the ordinary, developing a deeper sense of fulfilment and satisfaction in our daily lives. When we embrace the practise of presence, we become attuned to our surroundings and develop a greater sense of empathy and understanding for others. It also provides us with the clarity to make conscious choices and respond thoughtfully to the ebbs and flows of life, rather than being consumed by worries about the future or regrets about the past. In essence, presence is not just a state of being, but a gateway to a more mindful, purposeful and enriched existence.

Imagine spending time with a close friend or loved one, knowing that this may be the last time you will see them face-to-face. How would your behaviour change in this conversation? If you knew this was your last conversation, your attention to every detail and nuance in the moment would increase. This increased attention is a new form of presence where every detail and nuance is noticed, appreciated and valued. You may find that you enjoy the way their eyes sparkle when they smile or the tone of their laughter. Every gesture and expression becomes precious and imprinted in your memory with unrivalled clarity. The words exchanged carry a weight that transcends the ordinary and takes on an almost tangible meaning. In this state of heightened presence, time seems to slow down, allowing you to savour and appreciate every moment. The shared experiences, the dreams and the unspoken realisations are distilled into a precious essence and form a tapestry of memories that will endure beyond the boundaries of time.

A very good friend of mine, who later became an important artist, told me something that has stayed with me since we were teenagers. She said, ‘whenever something really special happens in your life, stop for a moment and recognise it.’ This simple practise of taking a moment and saying, ‘this is a really special moment, a really special time,’ is something I still do regularly. Anchoring the uniqueness of the present moment in my consciousness is a powerful practise. Reflecting on the individual details of the experience, the emotions felt and the impact of the moment has allowed me to cultivate gratitude and deep appreciation for the richness of life. It is fascinating how these small pauses can add depth and meaning to our daily lives and fill it with a sense of wonder and joy. Each time I engage in this practise, I find myself embracing the beauty of the present moment and understanding the significance of these unique experiences that form the tapestry of my life.

When we talk about the present, past and future in English, we engage in a complex interplay of linguistic constructions that profoundly affect our understanding of time. Unlike some other languages, English does not have a true future tense. Instead, we rely on auxiliary verbs and other linguistic devices to convey actions or events that have not yet occurred. This approach not only reflects the flexibility and adaptability of the English language, but also emphasises the intricate relationship between language and temporal perception. Think of phrases like ‘I will go to the store later today’ or ‘I am meeting my friends for dinner tonight.’ Through these expressions, we manifest a cognitive shift towards prospective thinking by subtly directing our awareness towards future events. This linguistic nuance embedded in our everyday communication plays an important role in the way we conceptualise time. It often causes us to anticipate and plan for the future rather than fully engaging with the present moment.

Poets have long been fascinated by the role of language in shaping our understanding of time. They seek to capture the fleeting moments and evoke deep emotions with their words. One such tradition that has been particularly successful in this endeavour is the haiku, a poetic form that beautifully captures the essence of the present moment. Originating in Japan, haiku are revered for their concise and evocative style, often depicting scenes from nature or daily life in just a few lines. This form of poetry emphasises simplicity, brevity and mindfulness and encourages both the poet and the reader to appreciate the subtle beauty of the here and now. Influenced by Zen Buddhism, the haiku form emphasises that being fully aware and present in each moment is not only an artistic endeavour, but also a deeply spiritual practise. Zen philosophy teaches that the present moment is the only reality we truly have, and it exhorts us to let go of distractions, judgements and worries and instead embrace the fullness of each passing moment. By encouraging us to look inward, observe without judgement and immerse ourselves fully in the present, haiku poetry offers a powerful reflection of Zen philosophy and challenges us to cultivate a heightened awareness of the world around us.

How often do we assume that we will only be happy if something happens in the future? Phrases like ‘I wish I had…’ or ‘I will be happy if…’ postpone the possibility of happiness and joy to an indefinite point in the future. Instead of focusing only on the future, we should transform our hopes and dreams for tomorrow into something like ‘I am grateful for’ and ‘I am content now’. By shifting our mindset to gratitude and contentment, we can find happiness in the present moment instead of always waiting for a future event. By returning to the present in each moment, we are not shirking responsibility for the future, but fully embracing it and enriching our lives in every moment, especially the moment we actually have control over. Gratitude and contentment in the present allows us to live a more fulfilling life, appreciating the beauty of each moment and finding joy in everyday experiences.

By remembering that the past is gone and the future is to come, we can focus on the present moment and our awareness of it. This practise allows us to cultivate a sense of mindfulness and appreciate the beauty of each moment. When we embrace the present moment, we can savour the small pleasures of life, be it the warmth of the sun on our skin, the laughter of a loved one or the stillness of nature. By being fully present in our lives, we can also deepen our connections with others, build meaningful relationships and enrich the tapestry of our existence. Let’s continue our journey to live more in the present and appreciate the richness this brings to our lives and the lives of those around us.


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Taming Your Stream of Consciousness

The early American psychologist William James used the term ‘stream of consciousness’ to refer to the spontaneous flow of thoughts, images, sensations, and emotions that constantly assail us throughout the day. It is a kind of inner monologue–the chatter and twittering of the mind. Most of the time we are not really aware of our stream of consciousness, but it is always there: on the way to work, in the background of our favourite show, or when we are trying to sleep. It is a kind of inner narrative that helps us make sense of the world. We wander from one topic to the next so automatically that we are not even aware that we are thinking. It’s a kind of ‘default setting’ within us that comes to the fore if we are not careful.

Because our minds are constantly thinking and generating thoughts, we are subjected to a constant bombardment of thoughts, sensations, and emotions. Our stream of consciousness is not a direct or accurate reflection of ‘reality’, rather it is a reflection of our mindsets, our beliefs, and our assumptions. The stream of consciousness is a kind of chirping and ever-changing background noise that can be limiting and distracting. When negative, the stream of consciousness can pull us down and prevent us from achieving our goals and living a healthy and balanced life.

Our negative thoughts become a kind of feedback loop and we get stuck in a kind of loop of negativity. We get caught in a cycle where we notice that we are thinking about negative things, and these negative thoughts create negative feelings, which in turn cause us to have more negative thoughts. To overcome this we need to be able to steer the stream of consciousness in a more positive direction. We must recognise that have a choice to respond to the information of our stream of consciousness positively, negatively, or not at all.

One of the most important insights about the stream of consciousness is that it is not ‘me’. We tend to identify with the stream of consciousness and think of it as a kind of ‘I’, because ‘I’ am the character who seems to be having these thoughts. But the stream of consciousness is not really an ‘I’ or ‘me’, but rather a stream of mental activity that we tend to equate with ‘me’. But the stream of consciousness is not a representation of ‘me’, it is only a representation of the mind that is part of ‘me’. It is not your pure, deep, and pristine centre of consciousness.

Realising that the stream of consciousness is not ‘you’ is the first step to being able to better control and shape your thoughts, beliefs, assumptions, and emotions.
If the stream of consciousness is not ‘you’, then what is it? We can think of it kind of like an holographic self: a collection of thoughts, images, sensations, and emotions, but also a collection of habitual beliefs, assumptions, thought processes and ways of thinking. It is the part of us that seems to be able to experience and act on the world. Ask yourself, “If the voice of my stream of consciousness was another person, would I want to spend my time with them?”. The answer is usually a resounding ‘no’, because our stream of consciousness is usually incredibly boring, repetitive and negative.

We can learn to tame the stream of consciousness by seeing it as an “other” – as one of many voices within us. If we are able to become aware of the stream of consciousness, we can learn to change its tone and texture. We can begin to become aware of when we are having negative, unhelpful and unproductive thoughts and we can choose to let go of these thoughts or engage with them. We can learn to reframe our thoughts so that they are less negative, less self-limiting and less stressful. Instead of being stuck in a cycle of negative thoughts, we can choose to take control of the stream of consciousness and direct it in a positive direction.

Since our stream of consciousness has a tendency to be incredibly repetitive and return to the same thoughts and feelings over and over again, one of the best ways to break the stream of consciousness is to have new thoughts, try new things, and break out of our comfort zone. When we have new and positive experiences, we can realise that our stream of consciousness is not necessarily an accurate reflection of reality, but can instead be a reflection of our mindset and our own limiting beliefs and assumptions. When we have new and positive experiences, we can allow ourselves to be more present and aware of the present moment.


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The Many Benefits of Meditation

When you meditate, you learn to become more aware of your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours, observing them more clearly and becoming more aware of the further thoughts, feelings, and behaviours that may arise in you as a result. There are many different meditation techniques. Some techniques help you to observe your thoughts or emotions, others help you to better understand your reactions, and still others help you to become aware of the power of the mind and the reactions of the mind. Some meditation techniques simply help you to relax and become aware of what is going on inside you. With all these techniques the same thing happens: you learn to observe what is happening in the present moment and what is going on inside you, and you can learn to accept yourself and your reactions as they arise in you. When we are aware of our automatic reactions, we have the opportunity to create new ways of being and new ways of reacting that bring more compassion and love into our lives.

You have probably heard that meditation can make you more relaxed and bring about a sense of peace and well-being within you, that it helps you sleep better, or that it makes you more productive. Research has shown that meditation can help reduce stress and improve your concentration, focus and memory, and that the practise of meditation can help you become more aware of your thoughts, feelings and reactions and how these thoughts, feelings and reactions can affect your physical body. If you have suffered from depression or are currently depressed, meditation can help you develop new ways of being and perceiving the world around you. If you struggle with addictions, meditation can help you to live in the present moment and learn to let go of old patterns and find new ways of being. Meditation can help you become more aware of your moods and learn to respond to them more positively. For example, if you struggle with feelings of guilt and shame, meditation can help you become more aware of your thoughts and feelings and learn to have compassion for yourself and develop a better understanding of the moods you experience and how those moods affect your actions. (If you are interested, I will be releasing an online course this summer that covers all the details of the scientific research on mindfulness and meditation).

Meditation is about learning to control and focus your attention. When you meditate, you have the opportunity to become more aware of and observe your thoughts, feelings and behaviours. You can learn to accept them when they arise and be with them by observing the thoughts and feelings and accepting them as they are. You can also learn to be more compassionate and understanding, and you can learn to be kinder to yourself. Through meditation you learn to live moment to moment, you learn to observe your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours, and you learn to understand that while these thoughts, feelings, and behaviours may have influenced the past, they no longer have the power to influence the present or the future. Past perceptions and destructive ways of thinking and behaving, even those we have developed over many years, can be changed.

Meditation requires practise. It takes time to learn the techniques and you will often need to return to meditation to practise and gain the skills you need to become more aware of your thoughts, feelings and behaviours. You may feel that you are only aiming for one change through meditation, but you will find that you are making several changes through meditation. For example, you may learn to do more for the people you love, you may learn to act more positively, or you may become more aware of how your body is affected by your thoughts and feelings. You can also learn to handle certain situations better; you can reduce some of the negative effects of your thoughts and emotions and you can understand how powerful the mind is. Through meditation we can learn to let go of old habits and become more aware of our thoughts, feelings and behaviours and the way these thoughts, feelings and behaviours can affect our physical body and our emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. We can learn to let go of the way we have been reacting to these thoughts and feelings. We can learn to let go of the way we have judged ourselves and others and learn to bring more compassion and more love into our lives.

Calming Stress Through Meditation

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Stress is endemic in our modern world. It determines the way we work and live, the way we eat and sleep, the way we walk and sit, the way we breathe and rush from one activity to the next. Stress has become such a part of our modern existence that it almost feels natural. But when people are stressed, their bodies break down, their joints and muscles tighten, their heartbeat speeds up, and their blood pressure rises. While some forms of short-term stress can motivate and encourage us, long-term chronic stress is not good for our bodies or our minds.

The fight or flight response is a natural reaction that occurs when the body perceives a threat to its survival, a threat to its physical well-being or to its psyche. The body responds to the perceived threat, often by increasing heart rate and blood flow. This reaction is unconscious and occurs without the body being aware of what is happening. The fight or flight response is a reaction pattern that has been passed down through countless generations and is essential for survival. Our genetic code is the way it is because it helped our ancestors survive.

But the fight or flight response is only really useful when it is working properly. When the body is too stressed or overreacts, it can lead to physical symptoms such as headaches, palpitations and insomnia. In addition, stress can lead to anxiety and depression. To reduce stress and anxiety, people can adopt practises that help reduce perceived threat, such as meditation and yoga. These practises help prevent the fight or flight response, which can help improve mental health.

Mindfulness meditation and yoga are great ways to control the fight or flight response and can actually improve the body’s natural ability to deal with stress and anxiety. Mindfulness meditation can be a great way to address the fight or flight response and thus gain control over your emotions. In mindfulness meditation, you focus on your breath to calm yourself while being aware of your emotions. Many people find that this is a good way to recognise the physical symptoms of their emotions, such as tension or stress.

In the General Adaptation Syndrome model developed by Hans Selye, there are three phases that people go through when they are stressed. The first phase is the alarm response, in which the body perceives a threat to its survival. Blood chemistry changes, and heart rate and blood pressure increase. The second phase is the acute stress response, and the third phase is the exhaustion phase. This is the moment when the body begins to break down due to the stress response and is no longer able to withstand further stress.

Meditation is a practise of awareness, and the ability to be aware of the physical changes that occur when a person is stressed and begin to lower a person’s stress levels. Meditation helps to relax the body, calm the mind, and create balance within the body. By calming the mind, the things that are seen as threats (that is, the things that cause stress) become easier to manage. But reducing stress is not the end of the exercise. Since stress can make one vulnerable to illness, reducing stress can help the person stay healthy.

Daily life is a constant flow of information that washes over us and stops only when we consciously want it to. The mind detaches from the world around it, withdrawing from the outside world and withdrawing from itself. Our thoughts and feelings become more abstract, while our experiences become less concrete. The self is cut off from the ‘everyday’ of the outside world and our experiences become detached from the self. The next thing we know, we feel completely overwhelmed by stress and cannot see a way out. One of the most important things we can do to find a way out of the stress and anxiety trap is to become more aware of our daily experiences. Mindfulness meditation is a way to understand the mind and our own experiences. By learning to be more mindful and aware of the thoughts and feelings that arise within us, we can find a way out of the stress and anxiety cycle.


Download your free 21-day course in The Path of Mindfulness. In this life-changing 21-day mindfulness journey, Dr Allan Kilner-Johnson guides you through a series of self-guided mindfulness exercises and shows you how and when to bring mindfulness into your daily life.