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The Many Benefits of Meditation

Posted on by Allan Johnson in meditation, mindfulness

When you meditate, you learn to become more aware of your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours, observing them more clearly and becoming more aware of the further thoughts, feelings, and behaviours that may arise in you as a result. There are many different meditation techniques. Some techniques help you to observe your thoughts or emotions, others help you to better understand your reactions, and still others help you to become aware of the power of the mind and the reactions of the mind. Some meditation techniques simply help you to relax and become aware of what is going on inside you. With all these techniques the same thing happens: you learn to observe what is happening in the present moment and what is going on inside you, and you can learn to accept yourself and your reactions as they arise in you. When we are aware of our automatic reactions, we have the opportunity to create new ways of being and new ways of reacting that bring more compassion and love into our lives.

You have probably heard that meditation can make you more relaxed and bring about a sense of peace and well-being within you, that it helps you sleep better, or that it makes you more productive. Research has shown that meditation can help reduce stress and improve your concentration, focus and memory, and that the practise of meditation can help you become more aware of your thoughts, feelings and reactions and how these thoughts, feelings and reactions can affect your physical body. If you have suffered from depression or are currently depressed, meditation can help you develop new ways of being and perceiving the world around you. If you struggle with addictions, meditation can help you to live in the present moment and learn to let go of old patterns and find new ways of being. Meditation can help you become more aware of your moods and learn to respond to them more positively. For example, if you struggle with feelings of guilt and shame, meditation can help you become more aware of your thoughts and feelings and learn to have compassion for yourself and develop a better understanding of the moods you experience and how those moods affect your actions. (If you are interested, I will be releasing an online course this summer that covers all the details of the scientific research on mindfulness and meditation).

Meditation is about learning to control and focus your attention. When you meditate, you have the opportunity to become more aware of and observe your thoughts, feelings and behaviours. You can learn to accept them when they arise and be with them by observing the thoughts and feelings and accepting them as they are. You can also learn to be more compassionate and understanding, and you can learn to be kinder to yourself. Through meditation you learn to live moment to moment, you learn to observe your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours, and you learn to understand that while these thoughts, feelings, and behaviours may have influenced the past, they no longer have the power to influence the present or the future. Past perceptions and destructive ways of thinking and behaving, even those we have developed over many years, can be changed.

Meditation requires practise. It takes time to learn the techniques and you will often need to return to meditation to practise and gain the skills you need to become more aware of your thoughts, feelings and behaviours. You may feel that you are only aiming for one change through meditation, but you will find that you are making several changes through meditation. For example, you may learn to do more for the people you love, you may learn to act more positively, or you may become more aware of how your body is affected by your thoughts and feelings. You can also learn to handle certain situations better; you can reduce some of the negative effects of your thoughts and emotions and you can understand how powerful the mind is. Through meditation we can learn to let go of old habits and become more aware of our thoughts, feelings and behaviours and the way these thoughts, feelings and behaviours can affect our physical body and our emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. We can learn to let go of the way we have been reacting to these thoughts and feelings. We can learn to let go of the way we have judged ourselves and others and learn to bring more compassion and more love into our lives.

Finding Time for Meditation: How to Meditate Amid a Busy Life

Posted on by Allan Johnson in habits, intention, meditation

Sometimes it is incredibly difficult to switch off from the stressors of your life and take the time to meditate. Many people believe that they do not have the time necessary to devote to meditation. Although we always seem to be catching a bus or a train, keeping appointments, or getting things done, we can still make space and time for meditation in our busy lives. When we take the time to meditate, when we become more self-aware and learn to observe ourselves and our reactions, we will find that we often find time for the things we need to do. Even if you are a busy person with a very full life, you can find time to meditate by integrating meditation into your daily routine.

Meditation does not have to be incredibly time consuming. Morning is an excellent time to meditate because that is when your home is likely to be the quietest. Consider waking up before the rest of your household to have a few much-needed minutes to yourself to complete your meditation. This is especially useful for those with children, who may find it difficult to meditate amidst the noise and demands of family life. You may not find time to meditate in the morning, but how about taking some time to meditate during your lunch break or in the evening? Often we can find time to meditate in the evening, especially if you can do it after dinner and before turning on the TV.

Even if you are out and about during the day, you can make time for meditation. When you go for a walk, do not be in a hurry–slow down and enjoy the moment. You will find that you have time to focus on your breathing and are able to concentrate better on the things you see and feel. If you notice that you are distracted, you can use your breathing to focus on the things around you and learn how to be less distracting to those around you. When you are in a meeting or at a social event, put your phone away and allow yourself to be truly present. As you begin to notice the things around you, you will find that you are able to focus your attention better and become more aware of how your thoughts and feelings are affecting you. If you are sitting in a waiting room, use the time to meditate by focusing your attention on the sound of your breath. Pay attention to how you breathe and how the way you breathe affects your thoughts, your feelings, and your emotions.

When you use public transport, focus on the sound of your breath and the movement of air on each inhale and exhale. You will find that this gentle meditative attention to the breath enables you more time to focus on the things you are experiencing. It may be difficult to find time to meditate when you are travelling, but you can find time by adapting to your environment as best you can and learning to take more time for yourself. If you want to meditate to music, try to listen to music that is familiar to you in a noise-free environment where there are no disturbances or distractions. If you can meditate in these moments of silence, you will have time to focus on the things you are experiencing, observe yourself and learn to become more aware of your thoughts and feelings.

You might also consider joining a meditation group so that you can learn the methods of meditation effectively before trying to meditate in an unfamiliar environment. If you have been meditating for a while, you may find that you find it easier to calm down and that you feel calmer, more relaxed and at ease when you do not have to focus on your reactions and calming your thoughts. Many meditation groups have online websites where you can find out about the style and tradition they teach and sign up for classes. The techniques and methods you learn from an experienced meditation teacher will help you achieve your personal goals of meditation and inner exploration by limiting the practise to a specific time per week that you set for yourself.

Download your free 21-day course in The Path of Mindfulness. In this life-changing 21-day mindfulness journey, Dr Allan Kilner-Johnson guides you through a series of self-guided mindfulness exercises and shows you how and when to bring mindfulness into your daily life. 

How to Begin Meditating: 4 Simple Steps to Get You Started

Posted on by Allan Johnson in habits, meditation, mindfulness

Meditation has been used for thousands of years to help people become aware of what is going on in their mind and body. Through developing this awareness we are able to take a step back and observe the thoughts that go through our mind, the feelings that arise in our body, and our reactions to events occurring around us. In mediation we learn to observe but not to judge our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours and to see how they affect the world around us and our relationships. When we learn to observe ourselves with greater awareness and clarity, we also learn to observe others with greater clarity, and we are able to bring more compassion and love into our lives. We become more aware of the impact of our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours on ourselves and others, and we are able to step back and recognise patterns that we have been repeating.

When we get into the habit of observing our thoughts, our feelings, and our behaviour, we begin to understand how our actions affect others around us. Meditation is not a one-time thing. It is a way of living and a way of learning how to observe our thoughts and feelings, how to avoid getting lost in them, and how to observe these ideas and emotions without judgement. Meditation is about learning how to live with greater awareness and clarity. 

Meditation is easy to begin but takes a lifetime of practice. These four steps will help you to begin your own regular meditation practice:

  1. Find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed. Get comfortable, close your eyes and begin to turn inward. You do not have to be in any particular position to meditate. Some people like to sit cross-legged and rest their hands comfortably on their knees, but you can also simply sit on a comfortable chair with your feet on the floor.
  2. When you are ready, begin to follow your breath. Take a few deep breaths, becoming aware of your breath. When you inhale, allow the breath to fill your whole body and when you exhale, allow the breath to leave your whole body. As the breath continues to flow in its own time, begin to focus on the sensations in your body. Be curious about how your body feels and how it changes from one moment to the next.
  3. Once you are familiar with your body sensations, you can begin to turn awareness to your thoughts. As you continue to be aware of the gentle movement of breath in and out, you can notice how thoughts, feelings and emotions arise and how these thoughts, feelings and emotions affect your life. You can see that thoughts and feelings are like clouds and you can watch them float by and dissipate if you just observe them.
  4. Next, begin to notice emotions as they rise within you, like the breeze blowing gently through the trees. Feel your emotions flowing through your body or filling your body as they pass through you. You can be present with yourself and allow yourself to notice and feel your reactions, accept them and be with them, understanding that they may be beyond your control.

The more often you practice meditation, the more you will learn about yourself and about your life. As you begin notice your thoughts, feelings, and reactions, you may find that they are created by the mind and that they are not solid things that can be held in our bodies. They can only be held in our mind, and when the mind stops, the thoughts and feelings stop too. Every morning is a new beginning, a fresh start to the day, a time to cleanse your mind and heart, and a time to let go of old habits and open up to new habits. By keeping this in mind you can learn to observe your reactions to stress, sadness, frustration, pain and anger and bring more compassion and love into your life, and use this compassion and love to become a better person, a better friend, a better parent, and help to create a more balanced and happier life.

Download your free 21-day course in The Path of Mindfulness. In this life-changing 21-day mindfulness journey, Dr Allan Kilner-Johnson guides you through a series of self-guided mindfulness exercises and shows you how and when to bring mindfulness into your daily life. 

Finding the Voice of the Self: Psychosynthesis and Intuition

Posted on by Allan Johnson in intuition, Psychosynthesis

One of the central tools of psychosynthesis is the exploration and integration of a person’s subpersonalities. To ensure its survival, the ego has developed a complex network of subpersonalities that enables it to fulfil its specific needs. The subpersonalities are the functions of our ego that are specific to a particular individual and serve to maintain our sense of self and the identity of the ego. They are the masks and protective disguises that the ego uses to create a sense of identity. As an individual progresses in psychosynthesis, they are able to integrate their various subpersonalities so that they are no longer divided into separate and competing parts, but form a unified functioning system.

But who is the conductor of this orchestra of subpersonalities within each of us? How are we able to connect with the sense of Self that exists at our true core? This inner knowing is what we call intuition. It takes place in stillness and in the presence of inspiration that comes from another level, often through asking and waiting. The ability to feel this oneness with the Self develops through constant exploration of one’s inner world and through a process of introspection that enables one to recognise the various masks and disguises of the subpersonalities, the various roles and self-images that the ego plays. To bridge this gap, mind and heart must be ready and there must be at least a beginning of trust in one’s own ability to “know”. We can develop intuition and a sense of the presence of the Self by simply sitting quietly and observing what is present in the mind and heart.

Intuition does not have to be taught, it has to be allowed. It is an ability that has always been dormant within us, waiting for us to turn towards it, just as a flower turns towards the sun. To develop intuition, it is helpful to be mindful, to sit still and observe what is there. We can begin with a small willingness to “know” more of the truth, light and wisdom when it comes to our own lives and the lives of those we love. We can begin to welcome in the removal of obstacles that cloud our understanding or affect our perception of truth. We can begin to trust ourselves and the truth more as we notice our thoughts and feelings, as we pay attention to what is happening in the world and to those around us. We can begin to observe our everyday activities and recognise the masks and disguises that our ego plays up.

The desire to get in touch with a greater clarity opens the doors to inner knowing, especially if this desire is accompanied by a willingness to receive and pay attention to what we hear or see. There are people who “know” things but do not believe what their inner senses tell them. They judge and reject what they feel or believe. This decision closes the doors to higher perception because it gives more power to fear: the fear of being wrong, the fear of being different, the fear of having to change one’s life because of what one hears. To open the doors to intuition and keep them open, we must be willing to hear and know, and we must be willing to trust.

Trust is not an easy thing, because it often requires a re-evaluation of how we have lived our lives. It may be that life has forced us to become more practical, more focused on the daily tasks of living and caring for others. Or it may be that we have made mistakes in the past when it came to who or what we trust. It may also be that we have forgotten that we have the capacity to feel more, sense more or be more open to life on all levels. Trust does not only involve the willingness to receive something from another level of our being. It also involves the willingness to believe in our own ability to flow with life and to change what needs to be changed on the outside or on the inside to do so.

The more we stay true to ourselves, the more our lives begin to change, the more we open up to ourselves and the more we open up to truth. The more we stay true to ourselves, the more our lives begin to change, the more we open up to ourselves and the more we open up to the truth.

Especially today, when we as a collective humanity are faced with so many major problems and so many actions are being taken that can have profound effects on all of humanity, it is crucial that we reclaim our capacity to know and trust, from which intuition springs. Otherwise we find ourselves in the precarious position of not knowing what or who to believe, not knowing what direction to take to improve the world and alleviate the immense suffering that currently exists. Without access to the deeper intuitive sense that is a part of us, we live at the mercy of public opinion rather than in the presence of truth. We have not forgotten the power of intuition, the power of what we feel to be true. We have only forgotten the depth of our own intuition. We have only forgotten that we have the capacity to feel more, to sense more or to be more open to life on all levels.

It is time to allow our inner senses to awaken and become the beings that we are. The times we live in demand this of us, and for each of us, the heart demands this of us so that we can begin to solve the problems and challenges that are immediately before us. We do not have to go to remote places to develop this ability further. We can begin to develop intuition in our daily lives by paying attention to the inner guidance that can guide us through our daily actions and decisions. We can begin to trust our intuition, our inner knowing, and if we are willing to open ourselves to the truth, intuition can be a powerful guide to making the right choices. The world is full of signs that tell us what to do. Signs that tell us to be healthy, to care for the environment, to be in harmony with ourselves, with society and with nature. We can begin to trust the signs that are there, to listen to what we believe to be true, to pay attention to what we feel in the body and to remember that there is much we do not need to understand or know in order to make good choices for ourselves and our loved ones.

Recognising the gifts of intuition may not happen immediately, but it will happen. The more we begin to open our hearts, the more we can listen to the voice of the heart and the more we can be guided by it. We can make the decision at any time to listen to the heart and return to the Self. With this simple action, we break through the ego’s defences and act with and for the soul.

Download your free 21-day course in The Path of Mindfulness. In this life-changing 21-day mindfulness journey, Dr Allan Kilner-Johnson guides you through a series of self-guided mindfulness exercises and shows you how and when to bring mindfulness into your daily life. 

Five Minutes to Ground Your Practice: Traditional Breathwork for Mindfulness

Posted on by Allan Johnson in Breathwork, meditation

In many ways, our diaphragm muscle is the key to finding stillness and connection in every moment.  This powerful thin domed sheet of skeletal muscle separates our thoracic and abdominal cavity, contracting to create a vacuum that allows air to be pushed into our lungs about 23,000 times per day. As we learn to control our breath, we learn to control our life.

While many meditators and yoga practitioners integrate the art of breathing, or pranayama, into their formal practice, these tools can be used almost anywhere and at any time to help us find the strength and grounding that we need in our daily lives. Pranayama may not come easily to everyone, but the principles are straightforward and everyone can learn to engage with these practices. Don’t worry if you find these practices difficult at the start—slow and steady wins the race and with just a few minutes of regular practice you will quickly get the hang of things.  Like anything else, pranayama requires practice.

The following four practices can be used separately or combined together into a five-minute pranayama routine to begin your daily mindfulness or yoga practice.  Used separately, they provide powerful tools that can be drawn upon in any situation.  Each of these can be practiced in traditional meditation pose, or at any point during the day.  Although these instructions offer guidance on these traditional practices, the most important thing is to always trust your own body and stop immediately if the practice becomes too intense for you.

Practice 1: Durga Pranayama (‘Full Yogic Breath’)

In our daily lives we have a tendency to breath through the chest in what is known as costal breathing or ‘rib breathing’ and when we’re agitated or worried our breath quickly retreats into our chest, creating shallow breaths.  Fortunately, we can easily move to slower, deeper breaths by consciously engaging our diaphragm.

To begin, place one hand on the stomach and one hand on your chest.  On your next in-breath, allow your stomach to expand outward as the lungs fill fully with air.  Notice the hand on your stomach naturally moving outward.  As you continue to inhale, feel the breath filling into the upper part of your lungs creating expansion and a very gentle bend in the upper back as you fill the lungs to their full capacity.

To exhale, begin by releasing the breath in your upper chest, feeling the hand placed there drawing in to your spine.  Next allow the lower abdomen to pull in, releasing the air fully and drawing the hand placed on your stomach toward your spine.  Repeat as many times as desired, allowing the rhythm of the breath to emerge naturally from the rise and fall of the abdomen and chest.

Practice 2: Kapalabhati (‘Shining Skull Breath’)

This pranayama is a powerful energiser but can be very intense, so exercise caution in your practice and rely on your own connection to your body and breath to know your limits.  Steadiness and ease are the aim of all pranayama, so stop if it becomes too much—traditionally kapalabhati should be avoided by pregnant women or those with high blood pressure. Begin by placing one hand on your abdomen and breath in with a full yogic breath, expanding the abdomen outward.  Now, with a pumping action draw your abdomen sharply inward to create a brief, forceful exhalation.  The force of the exhalation will create an involuntary inhalation.  Repeat 5 or more times.

Practice 3: Nadi Shodhana (‘Alternate Nostril Breathing’)

Breathing through the mouth offers a short and powerful way to fill the lungs with oxygen, but the natural purifying features of the nose paired with our tendency to breath more slowly through the nose means that engaging nostril breathing is a powerful way to calm and regulate the body and mind.   This powerful pranayama is traditionally performed by resting the thumb and ring finger gently on the outside of the nostrils. Begin by inhaling and then gently closing the right nostril with your finger; exhale fully through the left nostril. Leaving your finger in place, inhale through the left nostril before carefully closing that nostril and exhaling through the right.   Repeat 5 or more times, alternating between nostrils.

Practice 4: Sama Vritti Pranayama (‘Box Breathing’)

Sama vritti pranayama or ‘box breathing’ is a popular breathing technique that has been adapted into many different physical and contemplative practices.  This practice recognises the four elements of the breath: the inhalation and exhalation as well as the brief, often imperceptible pauses that come each time the breath changes direction. These four parts of the breath create the ‘box’ breathing as we count equal time:

            Inhale: 4

            Hold: 4

            Exhale: 4

            Hold: 4

There are also several variations of this traditional 4-4-4-4 count that can be used as needed throughout the day to recharge or relax:

Power Up
            Inhale: 6

            Hold: 1

            Exhale: 2

            Hold: 1
Cool Down
            Inhale: 4

            Hold: 6

            Exhale: 8

            Hold: 1

Pranayama are helpful practices to connect to the fullness of your breath and the way in which your body and breath are intertwined.  Performed together, these four pranayama techniques provide the perfect 5-minute practice to prepare your mind and body for the work ahead, whether that’s an important pitch, a creative session, or a stressful situation. As you continue to work with these pranayama techniques, begin to notice how the sensations of the breath begin to change:

  • what does the air feel like?
  • where do you feel the sensation in your body?
  • what does the breath sound like?
  • what minor variations do you notice between inhale and exhale?
  • how does your mind or state of being change?
  • are your pushing or gripping at any stage?

Life is meant to be cherished, so appreciate each and every breath as it passes naturally through your body.

Download your free 21-day course in The Path of Mindfulness. In this life-changing 21-day mindfulness journey, Dr Allan Kilner-Johnson guides you through a series of self-guided mindfulness exercises and shows you how and when to bring mindfulness into your daily life.