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Overcoming Negativity Bias and Resistance: Cultivating a Sustainable Meditation Practice

Posted on by Allan Johnson in habits, meditation, mindfulness, Observations

Imagine you receive an email from your boss asking you to come in or give them a call. You may feel worried or anxious and think, “What is this about? Is it something bad?” These thoughts can trigger feelings of fear, dread and anxiety, which can lead to outward behaviours such as increased heart rate, sweating or blushing. Imagine the thoughts and feelings that arise and the physical sensations in your body — discomfort or uncertainty. You may also consciously react with anger because you are expecting bad news.

Notice what happened in this thought experiment: you did not know what the boss wanted, but our minds generated automatic reactions. The lack of clarity from the boss created a feeling of uncertainty and triggered a cascade of thoughts and emotions. These emotions in turn influenced our behaviour and led to a mixture of reactions that we struggled to control. As we observed this automatic flow from thoughts to emotions to behaviours, we realised that some of our actions were out of our control, while others could be consciously controlled. This realisation clarified the intricate connection between our thoughts, feelings and actions and shed light on the way our reactions are shaped by internal and external stimuli.

Humans have a negative bias that has developed over tens of thousands of years of evolution, causing us to see the more negative option as true. This bias is a defence mechanism that prepares us for the worst-case scenario. It is deeply rooted in our subconscious and guides our thoughts and actions in various areas of life. This bias likely arose from the need to be constantly alert to potential dangers in order to ensure our survival in a world full of uncertainties, and is now reinforced by the dissemination of negative information in the media and society, shaping our perceptions and reactions to the world around us. However, if we are aware of these biases, we can consciously challenge them and balance them with positive perspectives, fostering a more realistic and resilient mindset.

In the 21st century, however, we no longer need to be guided by these automatic evolutionary reactions. A regular meditation practise helps us to detach from these deeply programmed reactions by noticing when our mind is on autopilot. When we develop mindfulness, we can observe our thoughts and emotions without automatically reacting to them. This allows us to make conscious choices and respond to situations in a more aware and considered way. Over time, the practise of meditation can bring about significant changes in our neural pathways, leading to better emotional regulation and a greater sense of inner peace. In addition, mindfulness can help us become more aware of our automatic reactions and habitual patterns. In this way, we can free ourselves from unconscious reactions and live with more awareness and authenticity.

So when we focus on centring ourselves in the present, we become more receptive to the sensations in our body, the sounds around us and the subtle changes in our environment. Through this heightened awareness, we are able to notice when our thoughts wander, gently acknowledge them and bring our attention back to the present moment and the rhythm of our breath. Each cycle of this practise serves as an exercise to strengthen our mental resilience, much like an extra repetition on a strength machine or an extra mile on the treadmill. The tools of integrative meditation act as catalysts for change, gradually reshaping our neural pathways and redefining the way our minds work. By becoming more aware of our thoughts and emotions, we begin to decode their patterns and gain insight into the inner workings of our mind, leading to a deeper understanding of ourselves and our thought processes.

Meditation is a transformative journey that goes beyond the designated time slot. It becomes an integral part of our daily routine and influences our thoughts, actions and overall well-being. Much like the careful tending of a garden, our meditation practise requires patience, dedication and nurturing. If we continue to invest time and energy into this practise, we will witness its gradual development, much like the growth of a garden over time. Just as a gardener tends to the various aspects of his garden, we nurture our meditation practise, encourage its development and reap the rewards of our persistent care and attention.

When we start something new, we go through a motivational cycle. In the beginning, we are excited and enthusiastic, full of hope and ambition, eager to master new challenges and seize new opportunities. Over time, however, it is natural for motivation to wane as the novelty wears off and we look for something new to reignite our passion and interest. This is a common phenomenon that many people face, and it often serves as a reminder to look for new sources of inspiration and fulfilment in our pursuits.

Perhaps you are noticing a resistance to your meditation practise today. Are you bored? Are you frustrated because you have to keep focussing on the object of meditation? As you deepen your meditation practise, it is normal to encounter these challenges. It can be beneficial to recognise these moments of resistance as opportunities for growth. You could experiment with different meditation techniques or incorporate a change of scenery to revitalise your practise. Remember that every moment of resistance is an opportunity to strengthen your mindfulness muscles and deepen your meditation experience. Keep exploring and stay open to developing your practise.

Simply recognise these feelings without judging them. Recognise that each emotion has a purpose and a message to convey. Take the time to sit with these feelings and allow yourself to fully experience them without feeling the need to react immediately. This mindful approach can lead to a better understanding of your emotions and give you a sense of inner peace.

These resistances often reflect how we react to challenges in our daily lives. When we are faced with adversity, our inner strength and bravery are tested and through these challenges we discover the depths of our resilience. Whether it’s a personal struggle, a professional setback or a social issue, our ability to face and overcome obstacles shapes our character and determines our path. Any resistance we encounter serves as a mirror that reflects our reactions, our coping mechanisms and our ability to grow. These moments of resistance are not only obstacles, but also opportunities for self-knowledge and empowerment.

When you begin a meditation practise, simply be aware of these obstacles. Pay attention when they arise and understand that they are natural. The first step is to notice them when they arise. It is important to face these obstacles with patience and understanding. By recognising their existence, we create the space for self-reflection and growth. As you dive deeper into your meditation practise, you may find that these obstacles reveal valuable insights about your thought patterns and emotional responses. Embracing these insights can lead to profound changes that allow you to develop a more positive and compassionate attitude. Remember that this is a journey of self-discovery and that every obstacle is an opportunity for personal development and inner resilience.

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Digital Minimalism and Why I Write My Morning Pages By Hand

Posted on by Allan Johnson in writing

In a world dominated by touchscreens and keyboards, the reason why writing by hand is still important seems to be increasingly forgotten. The physical act of putting pen to paper has a profound impact on our creativity and unleashes untapped potential in our minds.

This year, I have gone back to writing my Morning Pages by hand and it’s made a huge difference to me.

Many famous thinkers and writers throughout history have emphasised the benefits of writing by hand—and, indeed, Julia Cameron herself made it very clear that Morning Pages should be handwritten, even if I forgot about that for a while. The act of handwriting activates various cognitive processes and creates a unique connection between the brain and the hand. The tactile experience of writing seems to anchor the information deeper in our memory, promoting a deeper understanding of the material.

In a world where information overload is the norm, it becomes a valuable skill to retain and truly understand what we encounter. Handwriting provides a pathway to better learning as it allows us to grasp concepts more effectively and subsequently stimulates our creativity.

J.K. Rowling wrote the first drafts of Harry Potter by hand. This way of writing allowed her to give free rein to her creativity without the constraints of a blinking cursor. Rowling herself has spoken about the liberating experience of writing by hand, explaining that it allowed her to explore creative tangents and unexpected plot twists.

The cognitive processes triggered by the physicality of handwriting have the potential to fuel our creative minds and push us beyond the boundaries of conventional thinking. Handwriting improves memory, fosters deep understanding and unleashes creative potential. This practise can be a powerful tool to manage the complexity of our information-driven world.

Part of the problem I struggled with is that in the digital age, speed often takes precedence over thought. Clicking buttons can feel like a race against time, where our thoughts have to keep up with the incessant flow of information. However, when we focus on the deliberate pace of handwriting, a profound shift occurs.

Writing by hand encourages a slower, more contemplative approach to thinking. It makes us savour every word, every sentence as we put our ideas down on paper. The physical effort required to form letters and words engages our senses in a way that typing does not. This deliberate rhythm can be a balm for an overstimulated mind and provides a sanctuary for deep thinking in a world where speed is often more important than substance.

Take the example of Virginia Woolf, who filled countless notebooks with her handwritten thoughts. Her methodical approach to writing allowed her to immerse herself in the nuances of her characters and narratives, creating literary works that stand the test of time. This is in stark contrast to the speed of digital communication, where brevity often trumps depth.

Writing my Morning Pages by hand has taught me to trust the pace at which ideas flow. When I used to type them, my mind would race ahead and I’d find myself faced with pages of pretty nonsensical stream of consciousness. By gently slowing down with handwritten pages, my ideas have more time to take shape before flowing onto the page.

I have realised that the deliberate pace of handwriting creates a connection between mind and paper that is difficult to achieve in the digital world. By slowing down the pace, we give our thoughts the space they need to develop and mature.

In a society that celebrates constant productivity, the value of well thought-out, well-developed concepts cannot be overestimated. The deliberate pace of handwriting encourages deep thinking and provides a counterbalance to the hectic pace of digital communication.

I see the sensory experience of handwriting as a rebellion against the sterility of digital tools. The feel of paper under our fingertips, the scratch of the pen on the page — these sensations engage our senses in a way that a keyboard and a screen cannot.

Sure, I love technology as much as the next person, but I’m learning to connect more with a form of digital minimalism, where I rely on the best of digital and the best of analogue without assuming that a digital version of something is always preferable.

Why is this tactile experience of the analogue so important? When we write by hand, we activate not only the visual sense, but also the tactile and kinaesthetic senses. This multi-sensory engagement leaves a deeper and more lasting impression on our memory.

In addition, the tactile experience of writing by hand also has therapeutic benefits. It can be a mindful exercise that anchors us in the present moment and offers a break from the constant digital deluge. In a world full of distractions, the act of writing by hand becomes a meditative exercise that allows us to switch off from the chaos and reconnect with our thoughts.

Digital minimalism is a subtle rebellion against a world that tells us that digital is the only way forward.

The practise of writing by hand is not a relic of the past, but a key to unlocking creativity in the present. From improving memory and fostering deep understanding to promoting conscious thinking and engaging multiple senses, handwriting offers a multitude of benefits.

In a world increasingly dominated by digital technologies, rediscovering the power of writing on paper can be a revolutionary act, freeing our minds to explore unexplored realms of imagination. So, in the midst of the digital rush, take a moment to savour the simplicity and richness of writing by hand — your creativity will thank you.

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