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The Healing Power of Forgiveness and Meditation

Posted on by Allan Johnson in Observations

In meditation, we learn the essential skill of observing without judgment. This practice is not just fundamental to mindfulness but also deeply connected to understanding forgiveness. Both require a gentle release of judgment—toward ourselves and toward others. Forgiveness is often thought of as a moral imperative, but it is more than that; it is a skill that can be cultivated, a practice that evolves with time and patience. Through forgiveness, we offer ourselves and others a profound gift: freedom from the burdens of past grievances and the possibility of inner peace.

Forgiveness, at its core, is an act of compassion. It does not condone harmful actions or dismiss the pain caused by others. Instead, it is about loosening the grip that resentment and anger hold over us. These emotions can linger long after the events that caused them, deeply affecting our well-being. Holding onto resentment is akin to nursing a wound that cannot heal. The pain, unchecked, festers, impacting us far more than we often realise. Just as physical wounds need care and time to heal, so too does emotional pain. Forgiveness becomes a patient, gradual journey, one that unfolds as we allow ourselves the space to process and release.

Meditation offers a framework for this journey. In meditation, we practice releasing rigid expectations and judgments. We learn to sit with difficult emotions, observing them without reacting, and trusting that, in time, they will dissipate. This process mirrors the practice of forgiveness. Some wounds may feel too raw or too deep to address immediately. Yet through meditation, we cultivate patience and understanding with ourselves, trusting that forgiveness will become easier as we grow into it. This practice strengthens our capacity to approach pain with compassion and resilience, rather than letting it harden into bitterness.

Forgiveness is not a one-time act; it is a recurring practice. Each time we revisit it, we loosen the hold that past hurts have over us. This repeated effort builds a kind of emotional resilience, a “muscle” for forgiveness that enables us to navigate life’s inevitable challenges with greater ease. Meditation, in particular, teaches us how to observe difficult feelings without becoming consumed by them. It allows us to remain present with our pain, not to ignore it or push it away, but to let it unfold and eventually release its hold on us. This parallels the practice of forgiveness, which also requires us to stay with the memory of pain without succumbing to the urge to retaliate or react.

Many people become trapped in cycles of rumination, endlessly replaying past grievances in their minds. This mental habit can deepen the pain of the original hurt, making it feel as raw and immediate as when it first occurred. Resentment, fuelled by these cycles, often grows larger than the original offence, taking on a life of its own. Forgiveness disrupts this cycle. It frees us from the mental prison of rehearsed grievances and gives us the tools to step out of the loop of rumination. Meditation, too, teaches us to observe our thoughts without attachment, allowing us to acknowledge the hurt while gradually letting it go.

To forgive is not to forget or minimise the pain caused. Rather, it is a deliberate choice to release the resentment that binds us to the past. When we hold onto resentment, we remain tethered to the very experiences we wish to move beyond. Forgiveness offers a path to freedom, enabling us to live more fully in the present. This does not mean that forgiveness is always immediate or easy. Some hurts run deep, and their wounds take time to heal. Forgiveness, like meditation, requires grace and patience—an acknowledgment that the process will unfold in its own time.

If you are struggling with the idea of forgiveness, it may help to offer yourself a sense of grace. Accept that you may not be ready to forgive yet, and trust that the right moment will come. Forgiveness is not about forcing yourself to let go of pain prematurely; it is about learning to relate to that pain differently when you are ready. Meditation can support this process by fostering the qualities of patience, compassion, and understanding that forgiveness requires.

Forgiveness also reveals itself as a deeply personal journey. What feels right for one person may not for another, and there is no single timeline for letting go of resentment. The practice of forgiveness is unique to each individual and evolves as we do. Through meditation, we cultivate the inner strength to approach this journey with openness and curiosity, rather than judgment or self-criticism. Over time, we find ourselves more capable of releasing the past and embracing the present with a sense of freedom and peace.

Ultimately, forgiveness is an act of liberation—for both the person who forgives and the person being forgiven. It allows us to step out of the shadows of our pain and move toward a brighter, more compassionate way of being. If you are ready to begin exploring forgiveness in your own life, meditation can be a powerful tool to help you on this journey. By observing your thoughts and emotions with gentleness and without attachment, you create the space to process and release the burdens you carry.

Forgiveness is not just an abstract ideal or a moral obligation. It is a practice, a journey, and a gift that we give ourselves and others. Through meditation, we develop the tools to approach forgiveness with patience, compassion, and grace. Over time, we learn to release the hold of past grievances, freeing ourselves to live more fully in the present. If this message resonates with you, consider sharing it with someone who might benefit. Together, we can create a world where forgiveness is not just a rare act of kindness but a way of living.

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The Power of Compassion: Understanding and Practicing True Compassion in Daily Life

Posted on by Allan Johnson in compassion

Compassion, often overlooked in today’s fast-paced world, holds remarkable potential for personal and societal change. When we embrace compassion, we open ourselves to a wealth of opportunities for growth and positive change. The impact of compassion goes beyond the individual level. It has the power to influence entire communities and transform them into more supportive and empathetic environments. Compassion encourages us to connect with others on a deeper level and fosters a sense of understanding and solidarity. By extending our compassion to those around us, we contribute to building a more compassionate society where empathy and kindness are valued and upheld as essential virtues. Compassion also invites us to practise self-care and self-compassion and to build a positive and nurturing relationship with ourselves, which in turn enables us to be more present for others.

What Is Compassion?

Compassion is the ability to recognise the existence of suffering in ourselves and others without necessarily taking on that suffering. It is about connection and empathy, not self-sacrifice. Many people mistakenly believe that compassion requires that we empathise with the feelings of others to the extent that their pain becomes our own. While empathy is a component of compassion, true compassion means recognising the existence of pain and suffering while maintaining healthy boundaries. This balance allows us to connect emotionally with others without being overwhelmed by their suffering.

Compassion is not about pity or feeling superior to others who are suffering; rather, it is about recognising our common humanity. Pema Chödrön, a well-known Buddhist nun and teacher, emphasises that true compassion comes not from a desire to help the less fortunate, but from an understanding of our interconnectedness with all beings. This view challenges the widespread notion that compassion is only about charity or helping the less fortunate. Instead, it suggests that compassion is rooted in our common humanity and interconnectedness. It is not about pitying others or feeling superior, but about recognising that their pain is part of the collective human experience.

Barriers to Compassion

Despite our best intentions, various factors can hinder our ability to express and share compassion. Stress, for example, is a major obstacle. When we are overwhelmed or burnt out, it is difficult to muster the emotional energy to acknowledge and respond to the pain of others. This can also manifest as compassion fatigue, which can make it challenging to maintain a consistent level of empathy and support for others. Furthermore, societal pressures and expectations can also impact our ability to express compassion. The constant demand to excel in various areas of our lives may leave us feeling depleted and unable to extend compassion to those around us. For this reason, self-care is not selfish or greedy. Rather, it is essential because it enables us to give ourselves fully to those around us, providing the necessary emotional and mental resources to be present and supportive. By being kind and understanding towards ourselves, we can replenish our capacity to be genuinely compassionate towards others, fostering deeper and more meaningful connections in our relationships.

Personal biases and judgements can also hinder compassion by clouding our perception of others and affecting our ability to empathize. If we see someone as undeserving of our compassion, whether due to their actions, beliefs, or background, it becomes difficult to cultivate genuine empathy towards them. This can be particularly challenging when we are under stress or feeling burnt out, as our emotional reserves may be depleted, making it harder to extend compassion to others. Additionally, our preconceived ideas about a person’s situation or character can create a barrier to compassion, as we may be quick to judge without fully understanding their circumstances. Reflecting on a time when you found it difficult to feel compassion can provide valuable insights into the factors that influenced your response, whether it was due to personal stress, ingrained biases, or a lack of understanding.

The first step to overcoming these obstacles is awareness. By becoming aware of what is blocking or limiting our compassion, we can begin to address it. Stress management techniques such as mindfulness and self-care are important tools in this process. By practising self-awareness, we can build a different relationship with the world around us and recognise the common humanity and inherent suffering of those around us.

It is also crucial to acknowledge that each person carries a unique set of experiences and challenges, shaping their perspectives and behaviors. Taking the time to understand these individual narratives can help foster empathy and strengthen the bonds within our communities. Compassion allows us to support one another through difficult times, and it serves as a powerful force for positive change in society. When we consciously practice compassion, we contribute to a more inclusive and understanding world, where kindness and empathy prevail.

Compassion vs. Sympathy

It’s easy to confuse compassion with sympathy, so it’s important to distinguish between the two. Sympathy often involves a feeling of pity for another’s situation and can create a sense of separation or hierarchy. “I feel sorry for you because I am not in your situation.” Compassion, on the other hand, is about feeling with someone, not for them. It’s about understanding the other person’s pain without being consumed by it. When we make the suffering of others our own, it can quickly lead to emotional burnout. Even if we believe that we are helping when we empathise with someone else’s suffering, this can be harmful for both parties.

Part of healthy compassion is being present and supportive while maintaining your own emotional boundaries. It’s okay to feel compassion, but it’s also important to set boundaries and not take on the pain of others. True compassion exists alongside boundaries and firmness. You can care for someone and acknowledge their pain, but also hold them accountable for their actions. When you maintain your emotional boundaries, it allows you to support others without being overwhelmed by their emotions. This enables you to provide sustainable and meaningful support while protecting your own well-being. By setting clear boundaries, you communicate that you care for the person and want to support them, but that you also value your own emotional health. It’s a delicate balance that requires empathy, understanding, and a commitment to both yourself and others.

Practicing Compassion in Challenging Situations

There are moments when our ability to feel compassion is put to the test, for example when we are in conflict with someone or when someone repeatedly makes bad decisions. In such moments, it is important to remember that compassion does not mean condoning someone else’s attitudes or allowing negative behaviour. Instead, compassion means understanding the other person’s pain and responding with kindness, even if that means setting boundaries. It’s essential to acknowledge that everyone has their own trials and tribulations, and that our understanding and empathy can make a significant difference in their lives. By seeing beyond the surface, we can recognize that even those who cause conflict or make poor choices are often struggling in their own way. With this awareness, we can approach challenging situations with a mindset of empathy and patience, offering support and compassion in a way that is both constructive and respectful.

For instance, in the case of a friend or family member continuously making the same detrimental choices despite your sincere efforts to assist them, it’s easy to become frustrated or lose patience. It can be emotionally draining to witness a loved one struggling with self-destructive behaviors while feeling helpless to make a positive impact. Similarly, consider a scenario where an individual has deeply hurt or betrayed you. Remaining compassionate in such circumstances can be an immense test of emotional strength. It entails acknowledging the other person’s pain and actions while also prioritising your own well-being and emotional health. It is about finding the delicate balance between empathy and self-care, recognising that compassion doesn’t require sacrificing your own emotional stability.

Compassion as a Form of Service

In our lives, true compassion often manifests itself as a form of service. When we feel compassion for others, it naturally inspires us to take action, whether it’s through volunteering, helping friends in need, or simply being there for someone who is struggling. Acts of compassion do not have to be grand gestures. Small, everyday acts can have a big impact. One such act could be as simple as offering a listening ear to a friend in distress, providing comfort and understanding during their difficult times. Additionally, volunteering at a local shelter or community center can also make a significant difference in the lives of those in need. Even expressing kindness and empathy in our daily interactions with others can create a ripple effect of positivity and support within our communities. Ultimately, the essence of compassion lies in the genuine desire to alleviate the suffering of others and contribute to a more empathetic and interconnected world.

Opportunities to show compassion are all around us, often in small, everyday interactions. Compassion can be as simple as listening to a friend who is having a hard day, saying a kind word to a stranger, or being patient with someone who is struggling. In addition, showing compassion can involve being present for someone in their time of need, offering practical help, or simply smiling at someone who looks like they could use a friendly face. It’s about being open-hearted and willing to extend a helping hand whenever possible, no matter how small the gesture may seem.

Four Practical Ways to Cultivate Compassion

Here are four practical ways you can cultivate and express compassion in your daily life:

  • Active Listening: Really listen when someone is talking to you without interrupting or offering solutions. Often people just need to be listened to, and being there for them in this way can be a powerful form of compassion.
  • Volunteering: Volunteering is a valuable and rewarding way to bring more compassion into the world. It allows you to connect with others and make a positive impact on your community.
  • Mindful Presence: Be fully present when you are with others. Show up as your authentic self and encourage others to do the same. This form of compassion is about being yourself and allowing others to be themselves in your presence.
  • Random Acts of Kindness: Small gestures, like paying for someone’s coffee or leaving a positive note for a colleague, can brighten someone else’s day. Consider doing a small, random act of kindness for someone today — it does not have to cost anything, but it can have a big impact.

Take some time today to think about how you can bring more compassion into your life, whether it’s through small acts of kindness, volunteering or being more mindful in your interactions with others. Every moment of compassion you share with the world can make a big difference. Remember, compassion is not just about bearing the pain of others. It’s about recognising our common humanity and responding with kindness and understanding. By practising compassion, we can help create a more loving and connected world.

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Embracing Presence: A Path to Mindfulness and Fulfilment

Posted on by Allan Johnson in compassion, mindfulness, Observations

Have you ever had the feeling that life is passing you by? As if you were constantly stuck in the past or worried about the future? What if the real key to happiness and fulfilment lies in something as simple as connecting with the present moment and being fully present? Many spiritual and mindfulness practises emphasise the importance of living in the now, as this can help to reduce stress and anxiety, increase appreciation for the simple pleasures of life and improve overall wellbeing. By cultivating a sense of mindfulness and focussing our attention on the present, we can experience a greater sense of peace and contentment, allowing us to make the most of each moment as it unfolds.

When we talk about presence, we mean the opposite of being in the future or in the past. Much of our waking life is dominated by our worries about the past and our fears about the future. What gets lost in between is the present moment. Dwelling on the past often leads to regret, while worrying about the future often leads to anxiety. It is important to realise that living in the present does not mean ignoring the lessons of the past or neglecting the future. Rather, it is about finding a balance between learning from the experiences of the past and carefully preparing for what is to come while fully enjoying the beauty and possibilities of the present. This mindset can lead to a deep sense of gratitude, mindfulness and a deeper connection with the world around us.

The present moment is the only time we have control over. We have no control over the past and we cannot fully control the future — although we can influence it through our actions in the present. Therefore, the present is the most valuable and important time to focus on. When we are fully in the present, we can make the most of every experience, connect more deeply with others and appreciate the beauty that surrounds us. When we focus on the present, we can also better manage our thoughts and emotions, leading to a greater sense of inner peace and contentment. When we embrace the present moment, we can make conscious choices and take intentional action to shape our future in a way that aligns with our values and goals.

Writer and Zen practitioner Natalie Goldberg sums up the essence of presence beautifully with her quote: ‘Every moment is enormous, and it’s all we have.’ We rarely think about the fact that all that really exists is this one moment of awareness. This quote from Goldberg captures the true essence of presence and why it is so important. Presence allows us to appreciate each moment as it unfolds and to fully engage with the richness of our experience and the interconnectedness of all things. When we embrace presence, we can also enjoy the beauty of simple things and feel gratitude for the ordinary, developing a deeper sense of fulfilment and satisfaction in our daily lives. When we embrace the practise of presence, we become attuned to our surroundings and develop a greater sense of empathy and understanding for others. It also provides us with the clarity to make conscious choices and respond thoughtfully to the ebbs and flows of life, rather than being consumed by worries about the future or regrets about the past. In essence, presence is not just a state of being, but a gateway to a more mindful, purposeful and enriched existence.

Imagine spending time with a close friend or loved one, knowing that this may be the last time you will see them face-to-face. How would your behaviour change in this conversation? If you knew this was your last conversation, your attention to every detail and nuance in the moment would increase. This increased attention is a new form of presence where every detail and nuance is noticed, appreciated and valued. You may find that you enjoy the way their eyes sparkle when they smile or the tone of their laughter. Every gesture and expression becomes precious and imprinted in your memory with unrivalled clarity. The words exchanged carry a weight that transcends the ordinary and takes on an almost tangible meaning. In this state of heightened presence, time seems to slow down, allowing you to savour and appreciate every moment. The shared experiences, the dreams and the unspoken realisations are distilled into a precious essence and form a tapestry of memories that will endure beyond the boundaries of time.

A very good friend of mine, who later became an important artist, told me something that has stayed with me since we were teenagers. She said, ‘whenever something really special happens in your life, stop for a moment and recognise it.’ This simple practise of taking a moment and saying, ‘this is a really special moment, a really special time,’ is something I still do regularly. Anchoring the uniqueness of the present moment in my consciousness is a powerful practise. Reflecting on the individual details of the experience, the emotions felt and the impact of the moment has allowed me to cultivate gratitude and deep appreciation for the richness of life. It is fascinating how these small pauses can add depth and meaning to our daily lives and fill it with a sense of wonder and joy. Each time I engage in this practise, I find myself embracing the beauty of the present moment and understanding the significance of these unique experiences that form the tapestry of my life.

When we talk about the present, past and future in English, we engage in a complex interplay of linguistic constructions that profoundly affect our understanding of time. Unlike some other languages, English does not have a true future tense. Instead, we rely on auxiliary verbs and other linguistic devices to convey actions or events that have not yet occurred. This approach not only reflects the flexibility and adaptability of the English language, but also emphasises the intricate relationship between language and temporal perception. Think of phrases like ‘I will go to the store later today’ or ‘I am meeting my friends for dinner tonight.’ Through these expressions, we manifest a cognitive shift towards prospective thinking by subtly directing our awareness towards future events. This linguistic nuance embedded in our everyday communication plays an important role in the way we conceptualise time. It often causes us to anticipate and plan for the future rather than fully engaging with the present moment.

Poets have long been fascinated by the role of language in shaping our understanding of time. They seek to capture the fleeting moments and evoke deep emotions with their words. One such tradition that has been particularly successful in this endeavour is the haiku, a poetic form that beautifully captures the essence of the present moment. Originating in Japan, haiku are revered for their concise and evocative style, often depicting scenes from nature or daily life in just a few lines. This form of poetry emphasises simplicity, brevity and mindfulness and encourages both the poet and the reader to appreciate the subtle beauty of the here and now. Influenced by Zen Buddhism, the haiku form emphasises that being fully aware and present in each moment is not only an artistic endeavour, but also a deeply spiritual practise. Zen philosophy teaches that the present moment is the only reality we truly have, and it exhorts us to let go of distractions, judgements and worries and instead embrace the fullness of each passing moment. By encouraging us to look inward, observe without judgement and immerse ourselves fully in the present, haiku poetry offers a powerful reflection of Zen philosophy and challenges us to cultivate a heightened awareness of the world around us.

How often do we assume that we will only be happy if something happens in the future? Phrases like ‘I wish I had…’ or ‘I will be happy if…’ postpone the possibility of happiness and joy to an indefinite point in the future. Instead of focusing only on the future, we should transform our hopes and dreams for tomorrow into something like ‘I am grateful for’ and ‘I am content now’. By shifting our mindset to gratitude and contentment, we can find happiness in the present moment instead of always waiting for a future event. By returning to the present in each moment, we are not shirking responsibility for the future, but fully embracing it and enriching our lives in every moment, especially the moment we actually have control over. Gratitude and contentment in the present allows us to live a more fulfilling life, appreciating the beauty of each moment and finding joy in everyday experiences.

By remembering that the past is gone and the future is to come, we can focus on the present moment and our awareness of it. This practise allows us to cultivate a sense of mindfulness and appreciate the beauty of each moment. When we embrace the present moment, we can savour the small pleasures of life, be it the warmth of the sun on our skin, the laughter of a loved one or the stillness of nature. By being fully present in our lives, we can also deepen our connections with others, build meaningful relationships and enrich the tapestry of our existence. Let’s continue our journey to live more in the present and appreciate the richness this brings to our lives and the lives of those around us.

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Overcoming Negativity Bias and Resistance: Cultivating a Sustainable Meditation Practice

Posted on by Allan Johnson in habits, meditation, mindfulness, Observations

Imagine you receive an email from your boss asking you to come in or give them a call. You may feel worried or anxious and think, “What is this about? Is it something bad?” These thoughts can trigger feelings of fear, dread and anxiety, which can lead to outward behaviours such as increased heart rate, sweating or blushing. Imagine the thoughts and feelings that arise and the physical sensations in your body — discomfort or uncertainty. You may also consciously react with anger because you are expecting bad news.

Notice what happened in this thought experiment: you did not know what the boss wanted, but our minds generated automatic reactions. The lack of clarity from the boss created a feeling of uncertainty and triggered a cascade of thoughts and emotions. These emotions in turn influenced our behaviour and led to a mixture of reactions that we struggled to control. As we observed this automatic flow from thoughts to emotions to behaviours, we realised that some of our actions were out of our control, while others could be consciously controlled. This realisation clarified the intricate connection between our thoughts, feelings and actions and shed light on the way our reactions are shaped by internal and external stimuli.

Humans have a negative bias that has developed over tens of thousands of years of evolution, causing us to see the more negative option as true. This bias is a defence mechanism that prepares us for the worst-case scenario. It is deeply rooted in our subconscious and guides our thoughts and actions in various areas of life. This bias likely arose from the need to be constantly alert to potential dangers in order to ensure our survival in a world full of uncertainties, and is now reinforced by the dissemination of negative information in the media and society, shaping our perceptions and reactions to the world around us. However, if we are aware of these biases, we can consciously challenge them and balance them with positive perspectives, fostering a more realistic and resilient mindset.

In the 21st century, however, we no longer need to be guided by these automatic evolutionary reactions. A regular meditation practise helps us to detach from these deeply programmed reactions by noticing when our mind is on autopilot. When we develop mindfulness, we can observe our thoughts and emotions without automatically reacting to them. This allows us to make conscious choices and respond to situations in a more aware and considered way. Over time, the practise of meditation can bring about significant changes in our neural pathways, leading to better emotional regulation and a greater sense of inner peace. In addition, mindfulness can help us become more aware of our automatic reactions and habitual patterns. In this way, we can free ourselves from unconscious reactions and live with more awareness and authenticity.

So when we focus on centring ourselves in the present, we become more receptive to the sensations in our body, the sounds around us and the subtle changes in our environment. Through this heightened awareness, we are able to notice when our thoughts wander, gently acknowledge them and bring our attention back to the present moment and the rhythm of our breath. Each cycle of this practise serves as an exercise to strengthen our mental resilience, much like an extra repetition on a strength machine or an extra mile on the treadmill. The tools of integrative meditation act as catalysts for change, gradually reshaping our neural pathways and redefining the way our minds work. By becoming more aware of our thoughts and emotions, we begin to decode their patterns and gain insight into the inner workings of our mind, leading to a deeper understanding of ourselves and our thought processes.

Meditation is a transformative journey that goes beyond the designated time slot. It becomes an integral part of our daily routine and influences our thoughts, actions and overall well-being. Much like the careful tending of a garden, our meditation practise requires patience, dedication and nurturing. If we continue to invest time and energy into this practise, we will witness its gradual development, much like the growth of a garden over time. Just as a gardener tends to the various aspects of his garden, we nurture our meditation practise, encourage its development and reap the rewards of our persistent care and attention.

When we start something new, we go through a motivational cycle. In the beginning, we are excited and enthusiastic, full of hope and ambition, eager to master new challenges and seize new opportunities. Over time, however, it is natural for motivation to wane as the novelty wears off and we look for something new to reignite our passion and interest. This is a common phenomenon that many people face, and it often serves as a reminder to look for new sources of inspiration and fulfilment in our pursuits.

Perhaps you are noticing a resistance to your meditation practise today. Are you bored? Are you frustrated because you have to keep focussing on the object of meditation? As you deepen your meditation practise, it is normal to encounter these challenges. It can be beneficial to recognise these moments of resistance as opportunities for growth. You could experiment with different meditation techniques or incorporate a change of scenery to revitalise your practise. Remember that every moment of resistance is an opportunity to strengthen your mindfulness muscles and deepen your meditation experience. Keep exploring and stay open to developing your practise.

Simply recognise these feelings without judging them. Recognise that each emotion has a purpose and a message to convey. Take the time to sit with these feelings and allow yourself to fully experience them without feeling the need to react immediately. This mindful approach can lead to a better understanding of your emotions and give you a sense of inner peace.

These resistances often reflect how we react to challenges in our daily lives. When we are faced with adversity, our inner strength and bravery are tested and through these challenges we discover the depths of our resilience. Whether it’s a personal struggle, a professional setback or a social issue, our ability to face and overcome obstacles shapes our character and determines our path. Any resistance we encounter serves as a mirror that reflects our reactions, our coping mechanisms and our ability to grow. These moments of resistance are not only obstacles, but also opportunities for self-knowledge and empowerment.

When you begin a meditation practise, simply be aware of these obstacles. Pay attention when they arise and understand that they are natural. The first step is to notice them when they arise. It is important to face these obstacles with patience and understanding. By recognising their existence, we create the space for self-reflection and growth. As you dive deeper into your meditation practise, you may find that these obstacles reveal valuable insights about your thought patterns and emotional responses. Embracing these insights can lead to profound changes that allow you to develop a more positive and compassionate attitude. Remember that this is a journey of self-discovery and that every obstacle is an opportunity for personal development and inner resilience.

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Cultivating Present Moment Awareness: Your Journey to Mindful Living

Posted on by Allan Johnson in meditation

My approach to meditation is deeply rooted in the belief that we can enrich our understanding of mind and psychology by incorporating a variety of contemporary approaches and influences on meditation. This holistic approach allows us to cultivate a greater sense of contentment, joy, pleasure, and connectedness in our daily lives. By embracing various meditation techniques and principles, we can tap into a deep well of strength and establish a regular and consistent meditation practise that serves as a source of inner strength and calm.

I want you to start by imagining a really happy memory from your life— perhaps a holiday with family or friends, or a great experience you had with a partner, child, or parent. Think of one of those truly happy, transcendent moments that keep popping up in our lives, moments that we savour and are grateful for when they happen. Maybe it was a sunny day at the beach, with the waves lapping gently against the shore and a cool breeze caressing your skin. Or maybe it was a special occasion, like a birthday party full of laughter and joy, surrounded by the people you love. These moments are like treasures that we carry with us, brightening our days and reminding us of the beauty and happiness that life has to offer.

As you recall this memory, I want you to become aware of all the sensory details, all the things you perceive in this scene as you let it reappear in your mind’s eye. Try to imagine the colours, the sounds and the scents that surround you at that moment. Feel the temperature on your skin and the feelings that were stirred up inside you. Let the scene play out like a vivid film in your mind’s eye and explore every detail and feeling associated with it. Now pay attention to where your thoughts are. Is it running into the future, into a time after this event? Is it going back to something that happened before that time? Or does it really only seem to focus on that one big, happy, transcendent moment?

It’s probably focussing primarily on that one moment, because that’s what these big, happy moments do for us. They create a sense of ‘present moment awareness’, a sense that we really are in this moment. The past does exist and the future will inevitably come, but neither seems that important in this moment. This is something I call ‘time-orientation’. Our mind tends to spend a lot of time in places that are not the present. It often dwells on the past, going over memories, stories, limiting beliefs and moments of shame or embarrassment. This leads to a mindset of rumination where we replay past events. In contrast, when we experience these profound moments, it is as if time stands still and we can only focus on the beauty and joy of that particular moment. It is as if the rest of the world fades away and we are completely immersed in the blissful present. This heightened awareness and connection to the present moment can bring about a deep appreciation for the simple yet extraordinary things that happen in our daily lives and remind us to cherish every moment.

I won’t deny that the past has happened or that bad things have happened. But maybe our minds spend a little too much time there. Memories, both good and bad, can have a powerful impact on our thoughts, shaping our present and influencing our future. It is important to acknowledge the past, learn from it and then gently release it from our thoughts. Similarly, our minds can also focus excessively on the future, on things that have not yet happened. This is where anxiety arises as we visualise things that could or might happen. The unknown can be scary, but finding a balance between recognising the future and living in the present can help to lighten the burden of worry and anxiety.

Our orientation to time plays an important role in shaping our thoughts and emotions. It constantly pulls us into the past, where we brood, or into the future, where we are afraid. It is a common human experience to dwell on past mistakes or worry about the future, but these tendencies can often overshadow the richness of the present moment. When we constantly project our thoughts backwards or forwards, we miss out on the opportunities and experiences that are available in the present. By consciously focussing our attention on the here and now, we have the opportunity to fully engage with our surroundings, connect with others and enjoy the beauty of the present moment.

One of the most important tools we use to create a stronger connection to the awareness of the present moment is the so- called meditation object. A meditation object is anything that we use to focus and centre our mind — a tool that we draw upon. This can be a sound, a body sensation, a mantra or a visualisation. In this module, we will focus on the breath. When we focus on the breath, we pay attention to the rising and falling of the chest, the sensation of air flowing in and out through the nostrils, and the rhythm of inhaling and exhaling. This practise can help us to develop a sense of calm and presence as we focus our attention on the natural and constant rhythm of our breathing. By refining our ability to stay present with the breath, we develop a valuable skill that we can use in various aspects of our lives to promote mindfulness and emotional regulation.

The breath is often the best and simplest meditation object. When we focus on the sensation of the breath, we start where we are most physically aware of it. The first step is to notice how the breath moves through the nostrils, how the chest expands or how the belly rises and falls. This will serve as a starting point for the mind to return to when it begins to wander. As we continue to practise, we may find that our awareness of the breath deepens and we can observe the subtle changes in its rhythm and temperature. We may also become more sensitive to the connection between our breath and our emotional state, noticing how it can become shallow and hurried in times of stress and slow and deep in moments of calm. By regularly meditating on the breath, we can cultivate a greater sense of presence and peace and gradually train our mind to become more focussed and aware both on and off the cushion.

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